I was talking to a friend who just moved recently about the things I did when I first moved to Binghamton and hadn’t made friends yet. Most people were truly worried about me because I was going to a place that didn’t have much going on and where I didn’t know anyone in the immediate area. While it’s true that I did end up doing things by myself that I would much rather have done with someone else, it didn’t stop me from being happy. It really gave me a period of time to be by myself and enjoy my own company.
One thing that I’ve learned from my mom and sometimes take for granted is my ability to relish being alone. I seriously love it! (Not only do I love it, I actually NEED it lol) I think learning to be alone but not lonely is such an important lesson for everyone to learn. Not only do you learn to find happiness when you’re by yourself, but I feel like you offer so much more when you do get in a relationship, whether it’s a romantic one or friendship. To me, when someone who can enjoy being alone chooses your company, it speaks volumes. It tells me that they don’t need me but they choose to be with me anyway.
So what are some of the things I did before I had friends to call?
Get my nails did, naturally.
Made a Google Doc of things to do in this area. It was still winter, so all the cool stuff like hiking and such were not an option at that time.
Dressed warmly, even if that meant insulated sweats and boots – ain’t no shame!
Went to the mansion and museum on the list.
Conquered my fear of going snowboarding alone. Totally had a blast!
And noticed the little things that people here probably never thought about. Why are the traffic lights hanging from wires? What if it’s really windy? In certain areas, like downtown Binghamton, why are there no indicators for when pedestrians should cross?
It seems so long ago now but it’s only been a few months! It’s amazing how quickly time seems to fly when you’re having fun. I had dubbed 2014 as “The Year of the Unexpected” and it certainly has been – in a good way! It is a great thing when change comes your way and it makes you a happier, better person. I will always remember this time in my life and be grateful. I am truly blessed. 🙂