They sent me to Binghamton

I've always wanted to be on the east coast, and the universe responded…by sending me to Binghamton, NY. Oh you've never heard of it? Neither had I, but I do so love adventures and that's how I choose to view this. Let the adventures begin!

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Dem skillz, tho

Last night, a friend of mine was helping me with my school work that had to do with coding. Logical person I may be, but coder I am not.


Suffice it to say, I felt pretty useless, although of course I was very grateful for the help because what would’ve taken me at least 30 minutes took him a few seconds. No exaggeration. I knew logically what the program had to do at a high level, but I couldn’t even tell him anything about implementation. At least the last lab he helped me with I knew what I wanted the program to do and I just needed help with the syntax. This time, nada.

So I was genuinely surprised when he told me he mentioned me to his boss and that if I ever needed a job, to let him know. He’s offered me this before but I think last time it was more of a friend doing a friend a favor. This time it had to do with how I explained the problem to him because when I first showed him what I needed to do, we were both at a loss as to what the lab was asking for. I expressed my surprise that he pretty much offered me a job given that my coding skills are below sub-par and he said it’s my other skills he was referring to. OMG! I’ve got skills?!!?


I was really touched and flattered because like I said, I felt that I was pretty useless. Totally made my day.

It also reminded me of this test that my friend asked me to take, which tells you what your primary love language is. It’s based on the book, 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. My profile tells me my primary love languages are Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.


I haven’t read the book (yet) but basically it describes how you express your love and how you understand other people’s expression of love. I’ve never thought about it before, but it makes sense that people show and interpret things differently when it comes to love. For example, I tend to get really upset when I’ve specifically scheduled something with someone, especially given my busy schedule, and that person flakes on me. I don’t mean if that person has a valid reason, but when the reason is something like, “Oh I forgot I had stuff to do today” or if it happens frequently (and by frequently I mean, like, twice in a row lol). On the other hand, this isn’t a big deal to other people. I didn’t even realize that! I thought everyone felt the same way, which is why I felt really disrespected when someone flaked on me.

Then when I saw that my other primary love language according to the test was Words of Affirmation I was like, um, no. I don’t need to hear I love you. Actions speak louder than words. I do not break because of insults, I just stop listening. But then things like my friend telling me I’ve actually got skills happen and I realize that words do mean a lot to me, albeit maybe not the specific examples given. It really does brighten my day when someone compliments me unexpectedly, especially when I’m being my type-A, perfectionist self and don’t think I’m good enough or doing enough.

This concept is really interesting to me and I’m glad my friend pointed it out. Now that I’m aware, I try my best to be more open and not take things so personal when things like, someone not telling me they can’t make it to an event until after the fact happen. It’s hard. I still get upset. But once I get over the initial burst of temper I’m able to step back now and try to see the other person’s point of view. Maybe that person’s love language is not Quality Time like mine is and that’s why it didn’t occur to that person how upset it would make me. Or maybe that person just sucks. 😛

In any case, it meant a lot to me that someone I respect thinks I’ve got pretty good skills, and also that he spent time helping me out when he really didn’t have to. Words of Affirmation and Quality time in one night, boom! Did I mention that it’s really about the people here in Binghamton? The people here are awesome.

But really, dem skillz, tho. 🙂



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Back-Up Data

I got a new phone fairly recently and these days your phone numbers can be automatically loaded into your new phone via Google, back-up service through your phone provider, or in my case, both. This is really convenient except for following:

1. If you have the same person saved in your Google contacts and also in your previous phone memory, then the person’s name will appear more than once in your contacts list. This bugs me. Not only will there be 2 entries, but if you also had the same person in your email address book, then that will be a separate entry too.

2. People you used to be BFFs with or even services you used to go to like the dentist, doctor, etc. will get carried over. If you’re unspecific like me and just call it “Dentist,” then it isn’t immediately obvious which one is the most current one…Same with people where you just saved their first names, or if you’re like me, you put a nickname in instead of an actual name.

So today my super type A tendency kicked in and I went through all my contacts and linked those that were the same person. I couldn’t help but laugh at some of the entries and my initial gut reaction. For example:

Aussie – There was a specific incident in Las Vegas that I won’t get into detail here (because what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas) but let’s just say it involved a certain guy I had nicknamed Aussie. The memory is a blurry one but when I saw this on my contacts list I must admit I freaked out a little bit because I thought I gave him my number.


Then I realized this is actually another person altogether. Whew!

Boat Boy – I knew exactly who this was the moment I saw it and I just couldn’t help but laugh at the memory. This happened when I first started to venture out post-breakup and didn’t know the rules of engagement. That is, you don’t just hand your number out to anyone. Otherwise, you may get someone who calls and leaves you messages like, “I’m gonna keep calling until you call me back!!! Hahahah…haha…ha..ha…”


Cinco De Drinko – I’m just so creative with my nicknames, aren’t I? This was another lesson I learned in my early single days. It can be summed up in two words, really: Beer goggles. I decided this guy I was talking to during Cinco de Mayo was super funny and we had such a connection, so I agreed to go on a date with him. I mean, if we can have an awesome conversation while I was, shall we say, “feeling happy,” then man, the conversations we could have when I’m my normal self, right? WRONG. SO WRONG.

Beer Goggles Men

Nothing bad happened on the date or anything, he just wasn’t what I remembered…

Egypt – It took me a while to figure out who this was, but it’s actually a friend of mine who I used to be close to. At the time we were close, I had just broken up with my ex and he was in the midst of a crazy non-relationship situationship. I’m now very happy and at peace in my single state and he now has a beautiful wife and two kids. It is amazing how different just a few years can be. We don’t talk at all anymore but I will always remember our conversations with fondness.

And finally, the one that made me wince…

The Man Who Made Me Crazy – WTF?? I thought I had deleted everything about him, including his phone number!


Well, thanks, phone back-up, for bringing it back! Now that I know it’s there, I just have to be careful not to text him when I’m in my “happy state.”


Actually, it’s not that serious. I just thought that GIF of Steve Carell is hilarious. Truthfully, it’s been so long now that I’m certain my memories of him are really more of my mind filling in the blanks and less of the reality.


Besides, supposedly there’s that whole, it’s gonna make sense one day, right?


And if not, I can do bad all by myself, thank you very much! 😀


Seriously, life is too beautiful to be bogged down by the what-ifs of life. Not that I don’t go down that road at times but I try not to. Instead I try to focus on the things and people I do have in my life who make me happy.

That being said, I will also try to stop cyber-stalking certain people on social media because I really do need to let it go.


Yeah, I don’t day-dream about the what-ifs but there’s really no reason for me to be doing that. I mean, it IS kinda creepy how often I do this. 😛


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It’s Just So BeautiFALL (see what I did there?)

A few weekends ago, it seemed like I was experiencing the peak of fall in Binghamton, and I had a feeling from then on there would be less and less pretty leaves on trees. So I decided to be efficient in getting all my work done (unlike now) so I could have a Sunday Funday.


It’s amazing how focused I can be when there’s something I really want to do. How come I can’t be like that every time?? In any case, I managed to get all my work done because, well…


Since it was fall, I decided to get a pumpkin flavored coffee from Dunkin’ Donuts (no Dunkin’ Donuts back home) then went on my way to Taughannock Falls. As usual, I was extremely fascinated by my drive. It is just so, so beautiful around here and I just can’t seem to get over it. When I go on these little mini-adventures, it’s usually about the drive just as much as it is about the destination.


And with me being me, I naturally got lost even though I was using GPS. BUT, I came across this awesome view though!


I didn’t go to the actual trail for Taughannock Falls because I only had a couple hours left before it got dark, so I just went to the overlook. And just, WOW.


What’s cool is I actually visited the same overlook a few months ago, during spring, so I was able to better appreciate the change.


Pretty cool how different it looks in the fall, right? Fall just makes everything so colorful. Even the trees in the parking lot were really cool to just look at.


Here was the entrance to the trail. How cool is this?


The colors were just so amazing! I showed a co-worker from back home and he asked me to zoom in on the trees because he thought those were flowers. Nope, just the pretty leaves that we don’t see back home in southern California.




Then I came across my favorite view so far. It just absolutely blew my mind.


Just…wow. How are you even real?

I continued down the trail and found myself in a park, where I just hung out for a while.








I was in tree heaven. 🙂

I haven’t gone on a mini-adventure since then and the leaves are already starting to fall. 😦 But I was told fall takes longer to arrive the further down south I go so that means I need to plan a visit to DC, Virginia, or maybe even down to the city again. Can’t wait!

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Each month, it’s always a surprise how I’m going to feel during that special time. Am I going to see a rainbow and start crying, like this guy? Am I going to start sketching on the back of an envelope and let my artish side play? Or, my favorite, am I going to be inexplicably happy and listen to Backstreet Boys all day (true story)? Well, this time, I came up with this:


(It sounds like I’m all depressed but actually, I’m quite happy. Especially because I just ate two pieces of chocolate that I got from my trip to Costa Rica).

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Popping my NYC Broadway Cherry, Eating, and CrossFit in the City

This weekend I saw my very first NYC Broadway show!


When I first mentioned this to the friend I visited this weekend, I had apparently called it “If Else”…what can I say, I was thinking of the If/Else statements when coding…


In any case, it’s actually called “If/Then” and the theme is basically about the different lives the main character, Elizabeth (played by the amazing Idina Menzel), would have lived had she made a different choice on that one day in the park. I thought it was a really interesting concept, but really I wanted to watch it because Idina Menzel was in it and I must say, SHE IS AMAZING! I really recommend it!

You know what else I recommend? Having dinner at this restaurant called Pergola Des Artistes right before the show. It’s conveniently located on the same street as the Richard Rodgers Theatre (46th street). Excellent food and good service (since many people eat there prior to their show). It looks like a very unassuming place from the outside but oh man, the food! Unfortunately, I didn’t take any pictures…

I did, however, take pictures of some of the amazing food I had while in the city!

food nyc

TOP LEFT: Amazing breakfast at Tartine OTHERS: Unbelievably tasty dinner at the ABC Kitchen

I just absolutely LOVE the food in the city! LA has a variety of food as well in terms of types of food and culture but it’s all so spread out. In NYC though, it’s just a concentrated area of yummy goodness! If I lived down in the city, I would definitely not take all the amazing food for granted and eat out at least once every weekend.

Of course, with all that eating I felt the need to burn it off via CrossFit. Just kidding, I didn’t really feel guilty at all, I’m just that obsessed with CrossFit.


Yep, I’m one of those. So I dragged my friend with me to check out Brick CrossFit NYC and we both promptly got our asses kicked. ‘Twas glorious!

It’s a pretty awesome space and a lot larger than I expected, especially with NYC being so compact. They actually had another room available that’s not shown in this photo.


I also found this cute print out in the locker room.


After all that fun, I even managed to finish my midterm! Talk about being productive! Go me! Woot woot!


It was another great visit to the city and I find that the more I go, the more it grows on me. I think I actually could see myself living there…except for the insanely high rent. So, maybe not. I’m ok with being close enough to visit once in a while. 😛

Till next time, NYC!

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Can I get a blanket?

So I can duck my head under it and just forget about all the things that need to get done for a moment?

A Cat Under The Blanket Looking Cute

I’m very big on planning and that’s how I manage to do all the things that I do. I look ahead, plan what needs to get done by when, then execute. The downside is that sometimes when I look ahead and see all the things that need to get done it makes me anxious. It is during these times that I need to stop stressing about what’s to come and just take it one day at a time. And eat a bag of Cheetos. Those will surely help!

cat cheetos